I just love these surveys, but it is useful to know what contributes to a happy marriage. So, thanks to Silver Surfers for their insights into the over 50s demographic. They checked the opinions of 2,261 respondents (weird number) aged 50-80 to see what makes for a happy and lasting union.
It seems that over two-thirds of the over 50s are in happy marriages with a third of them having been together for an enduring 41-50 years.
Most of them made the right choice first time with 70% married once, with just under 1 in 4 proving second time is lucky.
So what can they teach the younger generation about a happy marriage? It’s not all a bed of roses, but i think we all knew that, and for almost 80% the most important factor in staying together is supporting each other through the tough times. Honesty and trust prove to be the bedrock of a successful partnership (64%) but it’s appreciating the lighter side with lots of laughs and fun together holding 68% together.
1 in 4 married people over 50 keep the flame alive with great sex, but it’s being in love that sustains just under half of the group.
It seems that independence is the key for some, with 10% saying that not spending too much time together and 41% certain that having their own interests different from their partner keeps life interesting.
For those who didn’t last the course, a third say that someone in the marriage met someone else while 11% admit to being incompatible from the start.
Top ten secrets of a happy marriage
1. Support in tough times 79%
2. Lots of laughs and fun together 68%
3. Total honesty & trust 64%
4. Being able to confide in each other 56%
5. Being in love 47%
6. Having your own and different interests 41%
7. Make sure you have lots of variety in life 30%
8. Shared interests 28%
9. Great sex 19%
10.Not spending too much time together 10%
Are “Silverdaters” finding love online?
Online dating proves a hit with the over 50’s; although only a small proportion have actually tried it (12%), of those who have 56% met their partner in cyberspace. Unfortunately, a third found that it was misleading saying that everyone lied on their profiles.
Martin Lock CEO Silversurfers, said: “It’s encouraging to see that the institution of marriage is enduring and that most people of the older generation have long and happy marriages. There’s clearly no one secret to it, a combination of things keep marriages alive, but support, friendship and lots of laughter seem to be the food of love!”
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