The Queen of Bude’s legacy to us all – a personal reflection

Written yesterday by Helen Shingler:

Today I attended the funeral of Margaret Louise Frost or ‘Marg’ as she was known to her closest friends and family.  I felt the need to write something about how profoundly affected I felt by the occasion. Bude Methodist Church was packed and that in itself tells you how much Margaret was loved and admired in her beloved Bude and beyond.

I accompanied two very dear friends, a couple from Daventry who I have known for about 12 years, they visit Bude twice a year and the very first thing they did on arrival and the last thing they did before making their way home was to visit the Rustic Tea Garden at Northcott to see Margaret. Along with so many at Margaret’s funeral (and it was a full church), they cannot believe that they will never see her again, hear her laugh or feel the big-hearted warmth of her personality.  To them and many others, Margaret was an intrinsic part of their holiday and the gaping hole left by her loss is beyond repair.  

Margaret’s daughter Mitch’s words, read by Colin May, were extremely moving and eloquent.  Many of us who did not know Margaret that well but knew of her charitable work and her huge influence in so many areas of the local community may have been unaware of her personal background story beyond her Rustic Tea Garden.

Hearing of her early challenges in childhood makes the warm-hearted, selfless, caring and loving woman she became even more poignant.  What an inspiration to all of us in the way that she lived her life. I was touched by her generosity of spirit, her authenticity (there will only ever be one Margaret Frost) and she was the genuine article.  She did not suffer fools gladly but always gave people the benefit of the doubt, even when her static caravan was broken into several times, she was concerned that the person who did it may be hungry.

The wonderful photos on the screens portrayed a woman who lived life to the full, loved every minute of it and grabbed every opportunity to have fun, challenge herself and to put herself out there when an opportunity came her way to do something!  Who wouldn’t want to look back at a life like that and to have no regrets that they made the most of it and had been a compassionate person?

I am personally inspired by Margaret and her philosophy on life, always coming from a place of gratitude, love and understanding of her fellow human beings and trying to help people where possible.  Wouldn’t it just be a better world and a nicer place to live if there were more Margaret Frosts on the planet? RIP Margaret, you will be missed beyond measure and thank you for teaching me something today …

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  • Avatar Kath Brabbins says:

    Lovely tribute Helen. We lost a real treasure in Margaret. 😥

  • Avatar Tony and Pauline Williams says:

    R I P Margaret we met Margaret several times over the year’s whilst visiting our farming friends in Widemouth Bay
    The last time was at the Rustic Tea Garden with our family
    Ill health as prevented us visiting since early 2019
    One visit to the Brendan Arm for Sunday lunch was a great uplifting day
    She will be sadly missed
    Tony and Pauline Williams
    Ellesmere Shropshire

  • Avatar Ian Mason says:

    May we all become a bit more Margaret from today.

  • Avatar Kathy Lewington says:

    Beautiful words Helen. I had the pleasure of knowing Margaret for the last twenty years, a mere blink of the eye compared to her family and lifelong friends, but during that time I came to love and admire her. Her kindness and generosity was boundless, her laughter was uplifting and her love of life an inspiration. RIP Margaret.

    • Helen Shingler Helen Shingler says:

      Thank you Kathy for your kind comment and how lucky you were to have known her for the last 20 years…..I wish I had popped over for a cuppa more often!

  • Avatar Joy Hamley says:

    “May we all become a little bit more Margaret”
    Ian Mason – that’s genius……. A new saying for Bude……

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